When divorced parents start dating again
(This is especially likely if the parent is divorced, not widowed.
The adult child might have been telling himself that his parents would get back together eventually.) In these cases, the adult child is looking backward and grieving the loss of the old relationship just as the parent is looking forward in excitement to a new one.
Traditionally, it is parents who are asked to be happy for their children’s happiness and parents who watch and worry while their children endure the ups and downs of meeting new partners and taking chances on new romances.
This is an emotionally challenging situation, so be ready to take any reaction in stride.
If you find someone who you think could become a long-term partner, ask your kids if they want to meet this person rather than trying to force a first meeting.
Offer the option of waiting to see whether the relationship lasts a while longer before agreeing to meet.
That difference in perspective virtually ensures that they will struggle to see eye to eye.
To reduce the odds that a new romantic relationship will damage your parent/child relationship…