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This will be her first thought upon seeing you and an overriding worry throughout. Your move Pick an outfit that inspires confidence and adheres to these essential style rules. Women are impressed if you take care in your appearance but will be put off if you mention price tags or name-drop designers.” says Elin Davies, image consultant at Style Doctors. The fallout This is, of course, permissible if you’re expecting an emergency call – just make sure you mention it at the start of the date to sidestep any resentment. “Telling her you’ve done this so you can focus entirely on her should score you major brownie points,” says Quilliam. “An urgent phone call from work, however, won’t cut it on a first or second date,” says Quilliam. Just send a short text, saying you had a great time or (and that’s so much better), call back to one of the jokes or anecdotes the two of you have shared.By doing this you basically keep the interaction going only on a different premise.Ask any women and they’ll straight up tell you that although the romantic intent is adorable, these will not work!And don’t forget, if any female tells you you’re adorable, you’re as good as gone.Already had an awkward first encounter watching her wince through a korma? “Keep the length of what you say quite short,” advises Quilliam. The fallout Despite those sympathetic noises, she doesn’t care. Besides, what could be more romantic than going Dutch? Your move If you like her, show her – even if it’s a first date. The fallout She’s liable to be anxious about you judging her and desperate to reassure you that she doesn’t do this with just anyone. The fallout Don’t send a text within a couple days and you’re not going to come across as keen, says Quilliam.Admit your mistake, apologise, and ask is she’d like to pick the venue for your next date. “Four or five sentences, one anecdote, then ask her a question.” Note: the question shouldn’t be checking she’s realised how awesome you are. Perhaps you think talking about past girlfriends makes you seem winningly mature. The fallout Get ready for a thunderbolt revelation. On a first date, you should always – The mistake Hovering as you part after having had a great time – head angled, breath minty fresh, lips wetted. The fallout Most probably a hearty dose of bewilderment and disappointment. “Sometimes, when a guy meets a woman he thinks is relationship material, he’ll be overly shy – and this sends out confusing signals,” says Kerner. The sooner you tell her what a great time you had the better.
Here’s the deal: Even if women are into someone, if that particular someone is ’inactive’ they will just lose interest. So if the 3 day rule doesn’t work, what should you do?
The fallout Since you’re not showing any interest in her taste, you come across as selfish, says relationship psychologist Susan Quilliam. Your move Keep the conversation as positive and as focused on the future as possible, avoiding any major forays into your romantic past. Don’t complicate a potential great thing by succumbing to base desire immediately.
“It suggests you’re only concerned with what you want.” Your move Gather info – either from her friends or (subtly) from her – about what kind of food, films or music she’s into. Your move In order to temper your natural instinct to impress and wax autobiographical, aim for a 60/40 split, with her talking for the larger chunk of time. “Nobody wants to feel they have to compete with an ex,” says Preece – even if she was a sadistic harridan. The mistake She had her purse out in a flash and, well, you are a bit strapped at the moment. This, on a loop, is what she’ll be thinking for the rest of the night and most of tomorrow. “Lust needs to blossom into romantic love and sometimes that neurochemical process can be short-circuited by sex that happens too quickly,” says Kerner. Such awkward considerations are easily avoided by simply holding out for a few dates. Unless, you know, that’s really the only thing you’re both after…The mistake Gleaning your dating etiquette from old sitcoms and films. Leaving it three days to contact her is a thing of the past.
She remembers you, but depending on how strong your game was, it can vary from ’Mark The Awesome Guy’ to ’That Random Dude I Chatted With’.
She may be wondering if you’re going to get in touch while she is doing the dishes, but you’re clearly not the only thing on her mind. As she heads to work the weekend is a nice memory, but not that much else really apart from the ’Likes’ on her Facebook wall. She’s still wondering if you’re going to call, but chances are she starts to forget important bits from your interaction. It feels awkward, you’re still pretty much strangers to each other and you really have no importance in her life in any way at this point.