Dating and the single mom
“I’ve taken vacation days from work to go on day dates while daughter is at school: self-care,” said mom of one Lisa S., whose husband died in early 2018; other tips include dating while the kids are with their other parent, and/or relying on a roster of dedicated, trusted babysitters .But it’s worth it — something mom of three Amber D. “I don’t hide the fact that I’m dating from my kids; I even girl-talk a little with my 15-year-old daughter, but I keep my dating life pretty separate from my family life,” said Amber, who lives in Los Angeles, CA and has been single for six years.
I waited a little longer with the next guy, but the same thing happened.“Model healthy dating choices and your own ability to roll with the punches and move on.” Sure, you don’t want anyone in your child’s life who won’t be a positive influence, but don’t start worrying about stepparent potential until you’ve established whether that person is a good fit for .“My sister and her husband have stepped in as World’s Best Aunt and Uncle, so I have parent partners and the kids have a positive male role model, and now I can date without worrying about whether the guy is ‘stepfather material.’ That role is filled,” said Amber. It can just be conversation and sex (never at my place) and fun and I gotta say…You might meet your soulmate, or a new best friend. But in general terms, every single mom can benefit from the experiences and perspectives of others.Hopefully, at the very least, you’ll figure out what you want from a future relationship — and what you don’t. Some of us are dating after divorce, after loss, or after becoming a single parent by choice. So we spoke to psychologists, therapists and dating coaches, as well as a posse of badass single moms, to establish what every newly single mom needs to know about the big, bad — but potentially brilliant — world of dating as a single parent.